How foolish is it to move to Houston with my GF temporarily?
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Not all sales jobs are like that. Ask me how I know. Many offer a lot of freedom. You can always get fired bu there are a shitload of sales jobs out there.
If GF is best of the best or at least pretty good World Bank or IMF loves economists with PhDs. Ask me how I know that too haha.
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and that's the difference between married and non married.
married: if **** goes wrong, you work hard together to fix it
not married: if **** goes wrong, **** that *****!
maybe you shouldn't move then. scottfw's frequent road trip idea sounds pretty good.
married: if **** goes wrong, you work hard together to fix it
not married: if **** goes wrong, **** that *****!
maybe you shouldn't move then. scottfw's frequent road trip idea sounds pretty good.
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you can't tell me that marriage binds people together.
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Well that was going to be my initial advise. If you do what I do, and make stupid assed threads when you're drunk, then you are achieving true baller status. Also, on the GS14 thing, I totally agree, they don't do a damn thing. Around here, the only thing that can get them to do **** is the General. O6 and below need not try.
Edit at what Y8s said. I would have had my wife on a plane back home a time or two if we weren't married. But we worked things out, and I am glad we did. I know damn good and well that wouldn't have worked out if we weren't. Plus, I know a ring doesn't stop some guys, but there is always going to be guys trying to swoop in since you aren't married. I know when I was single, and a girl said she had a boyfriend, I just kind of laughed off. I was usually right. Nothing like a good ****-block.
Last edited by chicksdigmiatas; 06-30-2011 at 02:55 PM. Reason: Waiting to see how the cock block thing will go.. lol
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Marriage is a little different in my perspective considering my mother and father were married a combined 12 times each and my step mother and father just divorced because it was financially convenient due to his health condition.
you can't tell me that marriage binds people together.
you can't tell me that marriage binds people together.
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There's tons of jobs available in a big city like houston. Ditto what a lot of others have said, let her move and work on the job hunting. Hell my company actually has an office in houston. If you want I can give you some contact info..
I do agree that getting shithouse drunk is the appropriate thing to do tonight, however.
I do agree that getting shithouse drunk is the appropriate thing to do tonight, however.
#77
Let her move, keep your job, search for something respectable in her area. If you can't find **** and it strains your relationship, then decide what to do. If you can't find **** and it doesn't strain your relationship, stay.
You'll be pissed if you move out now, live in a shithole, mothball the car for 6 months, and then find a decent job and have to drag yourself out of that hole. Dip toes, don't jump in head first.
You'll be pissed if you move out now, live in a shithole, mothball the car for 6 months, and then find a decent job and have to drag yourself out of that hole. Dip toes, don't jump in head first.
Visit her almost every weekend. Go to driving events less, but dont give it up completely. Keep working on your nest egg. Re-assess the situation in a year. I know how you feel, but 18 months is really not a long time at all.
I'm a firm believer that being apart really helps you grow together in a lot of ways. My girlfriend and I were in different cities for 3 years (while she was in school) and I only saw here on the weekends, if not every other weekend. We've been together for 6 (or 7?) years now, living together for 3.
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Oh ****, this for sure. Forget everything I said.
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Marriage is a little different in my perspective considering my mother and father were married a combined 12 times each and my step mother and father just divorced because it was financially convenient due to his health condition.
you can't tell me that marriage binds people together.
you can't tell me that marriage binds people together.
if you both want an easy exit strategy from this 18 month relationship, then I don't think it's necessarily worth changing up the life you enjoy currently.
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Hustler, just one thing. Marriage is NOT a religious ceremony. I am about the strongest advocate against organized religion you will ever meet, and I got married. Yes, in a church, because that was what was expected. But the setting is immaterial.
Marriage is a VOW. I swore, in front of family and friends (and some would say God, but I disagree) that we'd be together "till death do us part". Divorce is a weasle out, IMO. You give your word, you are expected to keep it. I, for one, intend to do so.
If you are not ready for that kind of commitment (and most are not), then do what is right for YOU. If you sacrifice for her, and later decide it wasn't worth it, you will regret it and begin to resent her.
Marriage is a VOW. I swore, in front of family and friends (and some would say God, but I disagree) that we'd be together "till death do us part". Divorce is a weasle out, IMO. You give your word, you are expected to keep it. I, for one, intend to do so.
If you are not ready for that kind of commitment (and most are not), then do what is right for YOU. If you sacrifice for her, and later decide it wasn't worth it, you will regret it and begin to resent her.
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I've gotten three people divorces (all the paperwork etc). Marriage is an outdated social convention which is based on the bullshit notion that a) love is forever, b) people give a **** about one another, c) people give a **** about themselves, d) blah humbug.