To all you guys who have a girl, Does your girl have guy friends that annoy the **** out of you whenever they hangout or when they call your girl, what do you hate about it and how the hell do you deal with it, I somtimes want to punch the dude thats my girls friend in the ******* face, one thing im more protective of more than my car is my girl!

I have no friends to hang around with because I have trust issues with people down here in florida and for a real good reason, I guess you can say my girl and car Are my buds , besides some of you guys in here. I guess you can say im a loner. , thats what getting stabbed in the back to many times does to ya.

 

Come on now, Okay maybe it's a jealously issue, but she is a hell of alot worse than me, I can't say two words to another women without her getting pissed at me...

 

***You are going to hate this, but -***
I might be wrong, but are you the one that was just speaking about an incident that you had in the Mall a few weeks ago? (Might be confusing you with someone else)
Maybe Relocate to a different area.
Hate to say it, but you sound like a ticking time bomb ready to go off. I would think that a person with a lot of anger and mistrust would eventually end up in jail.
Maybe you are different in person but it does seem that you are holding quite a bit of anger within you.

 

No I don't have anger held up inside of me , becuase Im not that type of person, Unless threatend im completly harmless , I have mistrust issues because Ive had so-called best friends ,I was basically led into a trap by a ex-gilfriend and people I thought were friends, I was jumped by 6 people and almost beaten to death, Ex was mad because I no longer wanted any part of her, that was 2 years ago walking to my car . Im the person that lets their guard down pretty easy, I trust my girl fully, And I don't seperate myself from people, If you meet me Im very open and friendly, I get mad but it takes alot, the mall incident was ....well I just lost it . And I do have regrets

 

So come on , how do I cope with the lil jealousy I have when it comes down to the topic

 

if you really trust your girl, then i would get some of your own friends, then you'll have something to do and not think about it so much

 

yeah dude, you got issues.

 

As far as the new girlfriend goes with the Male friends - You can't change that, - It is a point of mistrust and jealousy. It will just drive a wedge into your relationship if you let it bother you. (If something is going to happen, it will happen on it's own) - ( If something smells FISHY, then it is usually FISHY) - (Like a relationship that was not meant to be, is never going to be). You can't change it, just move on if it doesn't flow correctly. You are young yet and there is much life ahead of you and thousands of miles and thousands of roads for you to travel yet.
I have learned that nothing is ever "PERFECT", and I have been through a ton of relationships until I was 38 years old. And trust me when I say that Drugs and Alcohol do not help any relationship on either side. I'm not preaching these things to you, but have lived them in my life at different times and so I speak from personal knowledge.
***P.S.- Maybe we should start a Dear Abby Heading on the board now! ***

 

Ur right, So How do I go about this...Sounds stupid I know, why I ask, I duno...I even Strayed from people when I went to local street races, Even If I won People were like hey join us over here, awsome run ...I did'nt budge

 

thank you for the blunt remark, Im only looking for thoughts Not ignorent ****, All of the above has nothing to do with guy friends ,That was me just breaking the ice to a real trouble @t hand, Life is to short to worry about weither the chick you love is going to be there for you or not, Hay jus move on to the next one, now take this thought into consideration, would you be right to be mad about you girl having a friend that made a move on her earlier in ur relationship, sleep on that and let me know, Im going to be 20 and I want to get out of this cycle of trusting people again...hmmm I haft to rethink things in my life.... , I am confused as **** though I tell ya that.

 

Thank you for Your wise words, that shines some light on whats in front of me , It has nothing to do with cars but I like the advice

 

i don't know man find people with common interests and just talk to people, cars would be perfect. let up your gaurd a little bit but make smart decisions, that's about it

 

i had an ex girlfriend that was great and terrible all in one. loved her to death but drove me ******* insane, she was a very jealous person and never trusted me and would lead to a lot bad fights. Things got a lot better when i took on the mindset that i didn't care anymore(not literally but just kind of didn't let anything bother me), i was much much happier. eventually got rid of her but kept what i learned. Now i've been with my current girl for a few years, we don't fight much and we both have our own things going on so we're not together TOO much. We're both very happy, we'll be getting married June 21st 2008.

 

I bet it was your girlfriends guy friends who stole your oil! I would definitely go right to his house and search.

 

Maybe I've been going about things in wrong way, My girlfriend Has even said it, hmmmm....Normaly I would'nt go to anyone to talk about these things, But I cant keep dragging this baggage, So I turn here, hoping to get some input, Ummm really , I don't like being told I have issues becuase everyone has them sooner or later, But they don't say anything, Im just being open.

 

got to build the relationship on trust and communication. if you don't talk to her about it, you will begin to resent her and she'll sense that.

go hang out with her friend(s) without her, see what they're like for yourself.

my wife goes clubbing with her friends every week. doesn't bother me. i trust her. helps that most of hey boyfriends are gay, but still...i trust her. if something bothered me about it, i would tell her.

don't forget the other half to communication is listening.

 

why would anyone want to **** with this guy? :gay:

 

In your defense rican, I've been in your shoes w/ one g/f before.. and she ended up messing around w/ the guy friend. Then again, I got w/ her roommate to make up for it

 

Man, my life feels boring compared with some of you folks. Are you sure you guys aren't actors on a reality tv show or something?

 

me and my wife like to read Rican's posts together!